Major Depression and Complicated Grief

20% of bereaved people will develop major depression. If symptoms develop, seek a qualified mental health professional. Symptoms (including unresolved grief) may include:

Thoughts of worthlessness or hopelessness
Thoughts of death or suicide
Delusions & extreme weight loss
Excessive and uncontrolled crying & slowed reflexs
If mourning does not occur
Disbelief & unable to accept the loss
Flashbacks and nightmares
Fantasy relationships with the deceased
Feeling the departed is always watching
Withdrawling socially & searching for the deceased

What to do after losing a loved one:

Give yourself permission to feel the pain and loss.
Be patient
Accept yourself as you experience pain and emotions in your own way of healing
Express your feelings
Talk about your loss, your memories, and your experiences with your loved one
Avoid making major life changes (e.g., moving, changing jobs, altering important relationships) within the first year of bereavement
Eat well and exercise. Physical activity is a good way to release tension
Avoid alcohol (a depressant)
Forgive yourself for all the things said or unsaid
Do not need to constantly focus on grief
Decide if you want to continue certain holidays or anniversary traditions or create new ones
Do something symbolic in memory of your loved one
Join a bereavement support group for encouragement, information, guidance, comfort, and practical suggestions